Author: Jim Carchidi

Why do we resist change?

Heraclitus, a Greek philosopher, had been quoted as saying “change is the only constant in life.”

Aren’t you glad for change?

Consider that Heraclitus is from the 6th century, change is nothing new. Admittedly, it is happening at an increasing pace. Technologies, ideas, theories are continually evolving.

If change is unavoidable, what’s the point of worrying over it?

Obviously, how we feel about change depends on the circumstances. In our work lives a healthy attitude toward the idea of change is important if we want to grow professionally.  If fear of change is hindering us from doing this, we can work hard to change our perception. 

Change itself is not the problem but rather how we perceive it. Perceptions, when not challenged, lead to beliefs, and beliefs lead to behaviors which directly influence our results.  Embrace change as the opportunity of transformation.  Here is how:     

  1. Recognize that change is constant.
  2. Become good at asking questions – the more you know, the better equipped you will be for new growth.
  3. Maintain a positive perception so to gain positive results.

The workplace will continue to change.  In fact, it will evolve at an even faster rate moving forward.  Preferring to keep things “as is” might feel comfortable but disruption is inevitable, and no business is immune. Afterall, progress is rarely made without change.  

Keep perspective, harness the learning experience, and see the many possibilities on the horizon.   

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What are you choosing to pay attention to?

If there is a sudden loud sound, your awareness will immediately focus there. Your inner thoughts can capture your attention in a slightly different, yet still commanding, way. They too get pulled toward what distracts us most. Unlike an external loud noise where we identify the source and then move on, with internal loud noise, it is often difficult to steer your focus away from the hypothetical issue, which quickly turns into worry.   

Thoughts have weight – they can pull you down.  Thoughts have height – they can lift you up.  Thoughts have length – they can last a lifetime.   What direction are you allowing your thoughts to take you?

Worry is, sadly, an inevitability of life.  However, worry is rarely productive – so it’s crucial you not allow yourself to sit in that state for long.  Treat those thoughts just like an external loud sound- identify its source, release it from your memory and move on. 

Every time you’re pulled into unproductive thoughts, that’s the precise moment you need to relax and release.  Here is how:

  • Identify the thought – Is it good or bad?
  • Observe how it makes you feel – Optimistic or pessimistic?
  • Dispute the thought – Does this thought serve me well?
  • Come up with an alternative (and more accurate) way of looking at what happened.

Now you know…

“I did then what I knew how to do.  Now that I know better, I do better.” -Maya Angelou

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What do you see?

What about work has been weighing most heavily on your mind? 

Maybe it is a challenge, a change, or a struggle you find yourself in.  Now hold that thought and pause for a moment.  Reflect on it. 

If you are like the rest of us, human, then your answer was fixated on limitations and/or obstacles.  Rather than feeling a sense of progress, you feel stuck – Right?

“We only see what we want to see; we only hear what we want to hear. Our belief system is just like a mirror that only shows us what we believe.” –  Don Miguel Ruiz

What a profoundly simple yet simply profound concept.  Whatever it is that weighs most on your mind, just observe the situation without trying to solve it.  Silence the analytical judging mind so you can be in a state of wonder and curiosity.  Your focus begins to shift away from the obstacles and towards possible opportunities. Right?   

Always know that every dip and rise in the roller coaster of life holds opportunities.  You just need to tell yourself so – because, you see what you want to see. 

The goal of this message is to give you something more useful than answers…the ability to arrive at your own answers. Life will always have uncertainties and challenges.  The key to thriving, both personally and professionally, lies in what you choose to see in such trying moments.      

You are able.  You are capable. 

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